Dating and fear of abandonment
The film Fatal Attraction (quite an excellent performance by Glenn Close) and the recent court case of Jodi Arias come to mind.
What do all the films and print stories have in common? Dating a person with BPD is not part of your deal – or so you thought.
Jodi Arias – in my opinion, – a good example of a woman with quiet BPD (she functions superficially well but her chameleon-like façade breaks open once her relational views are challenged) murdered her ex-boyfriend Travis Alexander; Glenn Close in Fatal Attraction attempted to murder her former lover but failed and found her own death.
Most real-life relationships with a partner who has BPD are not deadly.
I used to have very low self-esteem, a litany of problems including bad boundaries, toxic relationships with emotionally unavailable and shady folk, and a crippling immune system disease, but this all changed back in the summer of 2005 when I was given a very poor prognosis (like the dead by 40 kind) and yet another breakup from a barely-there guy, and I experienced what I guess some people would call an awakening.
Without trust that her guy will remain faithful to his commitment, a woman is apt to worry endlessly that he will drift away or even worse, find someone else she imagines will fulfill him more. But please don't leave."The theme of abandonment is deeply embedded in the subconscious.A fear of rejection is created by a lack of connection.You can never run away from rejection for long enough to deal with the lack of connection in your life.They marry and set sail together back from Knossos to Athens.On the way, they stop on the island of Naxos for a respite. Ariadne falls asleep on the beach sunbathing and when she awakens Theseus is nowhere to be found.